How to Co-Create with the Universe

“One of the greatest threats to full aliveness is the sleight of hand practiced by our egos and our culture to keep us from seeing things as they are. Contemplation happens any time that we catch the magician deceiving us and we get a glimpse of the truth behind the trick. Whether it is a happy truth or a hard one, that truth will always quicken our lives.” – Parker J. Palmer

With wisdom and compassion, we can accept things as they are. You were born in a human body, raised in a geographical place on earth, and given a culture to shape who you are. Life is an experience. But the magic happens when we co-create with the universe.

How can you co-create with the universe?

  1. Use creative visualization – use your imagination to create what you want in your life. Use a vision board to activate your goals. For example, use a 8.5 x 11 cardstock paper, cut out pictures from a magazine or print photos from your computer that align with your goals, and use words and phrases.
  2. Use hypnosis. After reading, The Most Beautiful: My Life with Prince by Mayte Garcia, I know that Prince used hypnosis to tap into his subconscious mind. No one can ever be like Prince. However, I find it interesting that he used hypnosis.
  3. Learn to trust your inner self. Sharpen your intuition through meditation, pranayama, chanting, music/sound therapy, Reiki, and yoga. Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple computers, used Zen meditation to tap into his intuition and creative mind.
  4. Go with the flow. My Buddhist teacher Bhante Sathi says we should enjoy every aspect of our lives – even the things that we do not want to do.
  5. Use the power of prayer. Prayer invokes your goodwill and intention.
  6. Trust the universe. Yes, the universe is made of energy and we can tap into that energy. However, Dr. Ken Dychtwald states, “There is actually no such thing as pure energy or pure matter. Every aspect of the universe seems neither to be a thing or no-thing, but rather exists as a kind of vibrational or energetic expression.” I use Reiki to connect with universal energy and build trust.

Watch for synchronicities in your life. The universe will speak to you.

Namaste, world.


You Matter to Me!

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my family and friends. My relationships are important to me. I need to let my family and friends know that they matter to me. Life is short. We need to put more energy and focus on the people that we care about the most. Be kind to strangers too – we are one big family.

There are several ways that you can show your loved ones that they matter to you:

  • Put your cell phone away during conversations (turn off your cell phone is even better).
  • Focus on each moment. Don’t have a “rushed” attitude.
  • Put both feet on the floor to become grounded.
  • Focus your attention on your loved one – act as if you have all the time in the world to be with him or her.
  • Repeat back what your loved one says – to confirm that you are actively listening.
  • Remember you are eternal – you have unlimited time.

“Thank you for being there, for not being one of the too-many who are not. Thank you for telling me keep yourself special but letting me figure out what that meant. —Dear Father.” By, Emily Byrnes

Namaste, world.

Nature of Self

“When you contemplate the nature of Self, you are meditating. That is why meditation is the highest state. It is the return to the root of your being, the simple awareness of being aware. Once you become conscious of the consciousness itself, you attain a totally different state. You are now aware of who you are. You have become an awakened being.” – Michael A. Singer (From the book, “The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself.”)

Over the Edge

“As long as you are fully alive, you do not leap into the abyss once, and then it’s over. The truth is that the spiritual life is an existence that takes place in its entirety over the edge. If you hope to aspire to greatness of spirit, you must stay vigilant to the potential inherent in every moment. The present is always free and full of possibilities. It is up to you to choose that which will be best for you. Divine love persuades you toward the greatest good possible, but does not force you. By heeding the impulse for goodness that is present in any given moment, you contribute to the creation of a better future than would otherwise have occurred.” – Carol Orsborn

Communication with Family Members

Throat Chakra

Every word that we speak, or sound that we make, sets in motion either harmony or discord in our lives. – Laurel Elizabeth Keyes

Springtime marks new beginnings in the cycle of life. Last night I thought about all the changes happening in my family’s life. My mom is moving into an apartment and my older daughter is going into an addiction treatment center. It is so easy to get tangled into the lives of my family members.

It can be stressful trying to help my family. I want what is best for them. However, there is an element of surrender in the process. I need to “see how the cards are played.” My family members have their own lives to live. I want to protect them – and I will try my best to guide them. I need to find the balance of helping them and taking care of myself.

It is easy to try to control situations, especially with my mom who is getting older. My Buddhist teacher Bhante Sathi ( says we need mindfulness and compassion when we help our family members. We need to communicate with our heart – this is very important. We need to be mindful of our words.

Other important factors of mindful communication with our family members include deep listening, respect, and love. Be aware of the tone of your voice. Anodea Judith & Selene Vega in their book, “The Sevenfold Journey: Reclaiming Mind, Body & Spirit Through the Chakras” says, “The more we enter into resonance with our internal rhythms the more easily we can strike up resonance with another and have clear and profound communication. Next time you are struggling with difficult communication, pay attention to the rhythms of speech between you and your partner and see if you can develop a resonance to help the communication process.”

Resonance is the quality in a sound of being deep, full, and reverberating. It can also mean an intensification of vocal tones during articulation, as by the air cavities of the mouth and nasal passages. At the end of this blog post is a simple toning exercise that you can do to increase your resonance. (The lady in the video can let her breath out for a long time. Don’t worry. Just take another breath.)

Another part of communication is to tell the truth. This can be challenging. According to Dr. Brenda Davies, “Truth which is not simply a collection of static facts, but a living, developing, dynamic process.” It takes courage the speak the truth.

Davies continues to say, “As long as we responsibly share our own truth and are willing to hear that of other people, then there is ongoing evolution throughout the universe.

This prompts us to hold the truth lightly and with flexibility, being willing to look at new facts and concepts in order to incorporate them into our lives.”

I am a little scared to speak the truth to my mother and daughter. There is so much that I want to say, but I need to find the right time to express myself. I know that emotions bubble up and I need to be brave. I need to trust the universe and have flexibility in my mind and emotions.

Namaste, world.

Language of God

We seldom realize, for example, that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by society. – Alan Watts

This morning when I was with one of my hospice patients, I thought, “What is the language of God?” I know that it’s not the English words that I write and speak. The language of God is the sound of my breath, the ocean waves, the song of a love bird, a baby’s cry, the sacred sound of OM, and music. The language of God is a smile, the sunset and sunrise, the mountain in the distance, loving human touch, and so many more things.

I am so grateful to relearn the language of love.

Namaste, world.

Thousand Petaled Lotus

May you have as many blessings as a thousand petaled lotus.

One of my dear hospice patients died a few days ago. She had a hard death. Watching her last days was tough. When she died, I felt relieved because she was no longer suffering. For the first time ever, I prayed that she would have as many blessings as a thousand petaled lotus.

My hospice patient whom I’ll call Sherri died from colon cancer. She was fifty years old with long, strawberry blonde hair. She was married and had three children in their teens and early twenties. She was a beautiful woman inside and out.

My last memory of Sherri is of her sitting in a kitchen chair supported by pillows. Her temples were sunken in, and her eyes were half open. As she breathed, her bony rib cage gently moved in and out. She looked like she was pregnant with a swollen belly. The tube that connected to her stomach helped reduce the fluid. Sherri sat in a chair because it was the only place that didn’t cause her pain. Later on, she died in her bed with her husband by her side.

I gave Sherri a gentle massage on her feet and legs. Her husband sat by her, holding her hand. As I massaged her feet and legs, Neil Diamond’s song, “Do I Wanna Be Yours” played in the background. Sherri’s husband began to sob during the song. I put my hands on his shoulders and told him that he’s doing an excellent job taking care of his wife.

Joan Halifax says, “Being with dying often means bearing witness to and accepting the unbearable and the unacceptable.” It was a hard death. And now when I think about her death, all I can feel is compassion. I’m glad it’s over.

Halifax continues to say in her book, Being with Dying, “We need to learn to stay with suffering without trying to change it or fix it. Only when we are able to be present for our own suffering are we able to be present for the suffering of others, and the difficulties they may encounter in dying. The practice of insight meditation, in which we watch the ebb and flow of mental activity, is a good way to cultivate this ability.” I know when my death comes, I will count on meditation to guide me.

Insight meditation or Vipassana is a Buddhist meditation that helps you concentrate and gain insight into reality. It is a state in which the mind is brought to rest, focused only on one item and not allowed to wander. During meditation, a deep calm pervades body and mind, a state of tranquility which must be experienced to be understood.

When I do insight meditation, I use a mantra (a word or sound repeated to aid concentration). Here are some mantras that I use (in-breath/out-breath with each sound): OM/SHANTI (universal sound and peace), SAT/NAM (truth and name), and LOVE/PEACE.

Steven Levine in his book “A Year to Live” says, “A death chant can act as a refuge from the storm, or an open window to the sun. Mantras or prayers cultivated in a sincere spiritual practice work very well for many.”

Someday, death will come knocking on my door. I want to be as prepared as I can be. Meditation is the key to help me create peace and acceptance as I step into the thousand petaled lotus.

Namaste, world.